Have you ever heard the statistic that 55% of communication is body language and 38% is the tone of voice? These numbers are staggering and what they ultimately mean is 93% of what your date is saying isn’t actually in their words! In this blog we take a look at the key non-verbal factors to look for when you’re out on your next date.
Key Things To Look For
What you should be looking out for depends on a range of factors and body language is one of those things that there is no simple answer for. For example external factors like the weather or the location can have major impacts on a person’s body language and could mean very little about the actually date itself but here are a few simple but key things to look out for.
Eye Contact: Where is she looking? Eye contact is a great indicator that she’s listening, engaged and finding you interesting. If she’s looking around the room while you’re talking or, even worse, staring at her phone or watch it might be time to rethink your approach.
Arms crossed: Sure it might be a comfortable position or maybe she’s a little cold but often arms crossed can mean your date is closed off to what you have to say. If you find a certain topic is making her cross her arms it could be time to stick to neutral ground and avoid sensitive areas of conversation.
Touch: It doesn’t take a scientist to understand touch is a good thing. If she’s subconsciously brushing your arm or touching you on the leg you’re on the right track. Keep up the good work!
Conveying The Right Message
Don’t forget, body language is a two-way street. So while you’re trying to read into her behaviour, chances are she’s doing the same to you. You need to focus on what you’re projecting even if it goes against your natural instincts, particularly if you’re nervous. Sit and stand up straight with your shoulders back to project a sense of confidence, maintain eye contact while she is speaking and nod your head to show that you’re listening and engaged.
If you aren’t the most confident when it comes to speaking to the opposite sex you can take refuge in knowing that it only really counts for about 7% of communication.
Using Body Language To Your Own Advantage
Understanding and being able to read body language is a powerful advantage. You can read the situation, understand how she is feeling and know when it’s the right time to move forward or pull back. Reading body language can take an ‘ok’ date and make it a great date simply by knowing how she is feeling even when she isn’t telling you with her words.
Confidence is key when it comes to the dating world and truly being able to find what you’re looking for. When it comes down to it, the best way to build your confidence is to put yourself out there and to start developing your dating skills. Check out some great dating sites on offer here.