Dating

Sure it would be great for your love interest to look you straight in the eye and tell you exactly what she’s thinking all of the time but you’re dreaming if you think that’s actually going to happen. We’re willing to bet you don’t even do it either. When it comes to how to know she’s the one for you it’s always a combination of things said and things not said like body language and subtle signals.

In this blog we take a look at the top 7 ways to know if she really is the one for you.

1. You Have Things In Common

It’s no secret having things in common is important for a long-term relationship but it’s also crucial when you are connecting in the early stages. Do you like the same types of food, music or movies. Sure, these things aren’t deal breakers later on as you get to know each other but at the beginning these are things you connect and bond over. If you like animals and have pets, share that with her. If you are passionate about sport, let her know. Maybe you are a dedicated family-orientated man or career driven. All these things are important to share to understand if you have these initial things in common.

2. You Share The Same Goals & Desires

Do you both want kids? Are you both looking to settle down? Do you see the same things in your future? All these types of goals and desires are important when it comes to choosing the right person. The beauty of a dating site is these important desires are very easy to assess with an extensive public profile. Of course the ability to chat live with your match makes it easy to get a better understanding of what they’re looking for.

3. You Have A Physical Attraction

A physical attraction is not the be all and end all but it is a hugely important factor when it comes to choosing ‘the one’, at least initially. Our tip here is to not let it rule who you do and don’t connect with. Sure, you want to be attracted to them but don’t be to set on one type of hair colour, one eye colour etc. Remember attraction works both ways and a deep connection will go beyond simple materialistic features.

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4. You Can Talk For Hours

One of the advantages of online dating is the ability to really get to know someone in a safe, reliable, secure setting. This is a great way to determine if someone is right for you and if you find the time slips away and your conversations go well into the night it’s a great sign you two are connecting. Don’t be afraid to have a deep conversation about family, the future or their goals but you also don’t want to rush in with the hard-hitting questions too early on. Play the balancing act between fun and interesting conversation and deep and meaningful connection.

5. She’s Open And Honest (and you are with her)

Honesty is the backbone of both traditional and online relationships and if you feel she’s being dishonest or is hiding something, more often than not she is. Finding the right woman takes honesty from both parties and we always suggest being honest with your match (always in a safe way of course). Too often online relationships break down because one party was putting up a façade that didn’t represent who they really were and it was only a matter of time before they were exposed. Be honest and if she can’t handle that then she’s not the right person for you anyway.

6. She Talks About Meeting In Person

For couples who have not yet met in person, this can be a very big step. Sure it may not be the right time yet or even logistically possible but at least talking about the desire to meet and connect in person is a good sign that you may have found a long-term connection. Of course we always want you to be safe with meeting any one in person for the first time but having the desire to take the relationship to the next level shows that you really are growing as a couple.

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7. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Her

Can’t get through the workday without thinking of your match? Find yourself drifting off, daydreaming about her? If she’s all you can think about and you find yourself always looking forward to chatting again then you can be rest assured you’re on the right track. This is not unique to online dating but it’s a great sign you may have found someone you really connect with.

Our best bet, beyond all else, is to go with your gut feeling. If it feels right then pursue it and see what happens, if something feels off then chances are it is. Take a look at some great dating sites here.

Throughout the history of Hollywood, filmmakers have had a fascination for portraying leading men who ooze charm and have a way with how to charm women that seemingly comes more natural than breathing. So grab your popcorn, recline back in your chair and pay attention because there’s plenty we can learn from these 5 characters who have mastered the art of charming women.

1. James Bond

Without a doubt James Bond is one of the most charming movie characters of all time. Whether you’re a Sean Connery fan or right through to Daniel Craig, there’s no denying Bond’s way with women.

What We Can Learn? Confidence is key. Bond oozes confidence, whether he’s racing a car, in a gunfight or wooing a woman…Confidence is his strength. Just be careful not to overcompensate and head towards cockiness.

2. Jax Teller – Sons Of Anarchy

President of the Sons of Anarchy Motorcycle Club, Jax Teller is armed with only a motorcycle and rugged charm but still has an undeniable pull on his female counterparts. We’re not saying you need to run down to your local Harley Davidson showroom but his nonchalant attitude certainly does work for him.

What We Can Learn? A certain level of nonchalance can go a long way. Don’t go in too hard too early but at the same time it’s important she knows you’re interested.

3. Don Draper – Mad Men

Harking back to the golden days of advertising when style was king and no one did it better than Don Draper. While he certainly has some questionable morals when it comes to monogamy, Draper’s too cool for school attitude proves pretty hard to resist.

What We Can Learn? Put the effort in. While some guys might be lucky enough to naturally ooze style, for most of us it takes a bit of effort. Going on a first date? Book yourself in for a haircut, have a shave, put on a nice suit and show her that you really care.

4. Alfie Elkins – Alfie

While there’s no denying the charm Alfie holds over women, with this one it’s almost a ‘what not to do’ lesson. After years of womanising and never committing to any one love-interest, Alfie recognises the error in his ways and when he does go to settle down he realises everyone else has moved on. Committing to a person, a situation or a mission to find love is an important part of dating, especially online.

What We Can Learn? Your word is powerful. Be true to your word and loyal to those who you make a genuine connection with.

5. John Robie – To Catch A Thief

If there’s anything we can learn from John Robie it’s that charm is timeless…of course starring along side Grace Kelly and running around the French Riviera helps! 1930s style and class, paired with Robie’s gentlemanly demeanour has women fighting for him in no time.

What We Can Learn? Being a gentleman is charming no matter the era. Don’t be afraid to hold doors open, pull chairs out or share your coat. While these are simple things they do go a long way.

Whether it’s effortless confidence and style, a nonchalance attitude, an unwavering loyalty or gentlemanly demeanour, there are a host of charming qualities we can learn from these 5 men. However, beyond all the qualities listed in this blog the most important thing is to be yourself. You want your future partner to get to know the real you and not a character you have stolen from the movies. Check out Asian Dating for a great online dating atmosphere.