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Have you ever been in a relationship and wished you were single or have you ever been single and wished you were in a relationship? There’s no doubt, there are perks to the single life but at EuroCupid we believe there is no substitute to a loving, committed relationship with the right partner. Someone who excites you, makes your heart skip a beat and makes you want to be a better person.

In this blog we take a look at the top 4 reasons you are better off in a relationship.

You’re More Selfless

Sure, being single might give you a sense of freedom from only having to look out for yourself but acting selflessly and pleasing another person can actually be a very rewarding experience. Being one half of a quality, meaningful relationship means you are constantly thinking of one another, considering the impact of your actions and planning for the needs and desires of your partner. Selflessness is a very attractive quality and being in a relationship helps to foster that. And don’t forget, it’s a two-way street so not only will you be striving to please your partner but they will be working hard to please you.

You Gain A Sense Of Confidence

Being in a relationship, particularly if you have been single for a while, can give you a real sense of confidence and self-worth. This newfound confidence can help improve the perception of yourself and how others perceive you both socially and professionally. Often members say that finding love on a dating site has actually had a positive impact that stretches through many aspects of their lives beyond just a romantic aspect.

You Might Learn Something About Yourself

Many members come to a dating site after being single for a long time, often for many years. Those who have been single for a while start to develop an image of themselves that may change once they get into a relationship, for good or for bad. Even if you find you have things to work on, knowing this is a great start to improving your life overall. It often isn’t until we are in a loving, committed relationship that we see a whole new side of ourselves that may not have existed before. As with confidence, this can have a profound impact on your life overall and can benefit you both personally and professionally.

You Feel A Sense Of Purpose

Sometimes being single can make your dreams of having a family and children seem like a distant prospect. Although you’re not going to rush into these things when you are in a new relationship, it does bring your goals into more of a reality and something you are working towards. Maybe you don’t see your future as having kids and instead you want to travel, own a home or grow personally. Whatever your goals are, being in a relationship has a funny way of putting these goals into action and giving you a real sense of purpose again.

We are all different and how being in a loving, committed relationship affects each of us differently. Whether being in a relationship fills you with confidence, reignites your sense of purpose and determination, teaches you things about yourself or helps you grow as a partner, there’s a lot being in a relationship can teach us. And it all starts with setting up your profile! What are you waiting for?

Have you ever heard the statistic that 55% of communication is body language and 38% is the tone of voice? These numbers are staggering and what they ultimately mean is 93% of what your date is saying isn’t actually in their words! In this blog we take a look at the key non-verbal factors to look for when you’re out on your next date.

Key Things To Look For

What you should be looking out for depends on a range of factors and body language is one of those things that there is no simple answer for. For example external factors like the weather or the location can have major impacts on a person’s body language and could mean very little about the actually date itself but here are a few simple but key things to look out for.

Eye Contact: Where is she looking? Eye contact is a great indicator that she’s listening, engaged and finding you interesting. If she’s looking around the room while you’re talking or, even worse, staring at her phone or watch it might be time to rethink your approach.

Arms crossed: Sure it might be a comfortable position or maybe she’s a little cold but often arms crossed can mean your date is closed off to what you have to say. If you find a certain topic is making her cross her arms it could be time to stick to neutral ground and avoid sensitive areas of conversation.

Touch: It doesn’t take a scientist to understand touch is a good thing. If she’s subconsciously brushing your arm or touching you on the leg you’re on the right track. Keep up the good work!

Conveying The Right Message

Don’t forget, body language is a two-way street. So while you’re trying to read into her behaviour, chances are she’s doing the same to you. You need to focus on what you’re projecting even if it goes against your natural instincts, particularly if you’re nervous. Sit and stand up straight with your shoulders back to project a sense of confidence, maintain eye contact while she is speaking and nod your head to show that you’re listening and engaged.

If you aren’t the most confident when it comes to speaking to the opposite sex you can take refuge in knowing that it only really counts for about 7% of communication.

Using Body Language To Your Own Advantage

Understanding and being able to read body language is a powerful advantage. You can read the situation, understand how she is feeling and know when it’s the right time to move forward or pull back. Reading body language can take an ‘ok’ date and make it a great date simply by knowing how she is feeling even when she isn’t telling you with her words.

Confidence is key when it comes to the dating world and truly being able to find what you’re looking for. When it comes down to it, the best way to build your confidence is to put yourself out there and to start developing your dating skills. Check out some great dating sites on offer here.

There’s no doubt dating can be nerve-racking especially if you have been out of the game for a while. Before we get into what not to do on a date it’s important to note that it’s totally normal to be nervous, excited and even a little awkward. No one is expecting you to be a modern day Casanova but there are several simple things you want to stay well away from particularly in the early stages of a relationship. In this blog we take a look at a few of our top dating don’ts.

Don’t Be Late

Sure you might get a flat tire, you might miss the train or you might get caught in traffic but, whatever your excuse, if you show up late to your first date you’re not off to a great start. We all no the importance of a first impression and leaving your date waiting awkwardly at the meeting place is not a good one. In saying that you don’t want to arrive 3 hours early. Our top tip is to aim to get there a half hour early and grab a coffee at a café around the corner to help calm your nerves. That way you won’t show up late, in a rush and flustered.

Don’t Just Talk About Yourself

Without question, one of the biggest turn offs in a date for men and women is someone who only talks about himself or herself. Sure, if she asks you a question you will want to respond with a meaningful answer but don’t forget to ask questions back. Our tip is to ask a question and actually listen to the answer so you can ask another question that flows on from that. The goal is to avoid awkward silence. Silence is fine but by the time it becomes awkward your date is already on the slide.

Turn Your Phone Off

Unless you’re expecting a call from your dying relative or maybe the president, turn your phone off for a few hours or at least put it on silent. Answering your phone on a date or just ‘quickly’ texting back your best friend is a huge dating don’t and by turning it off or putting it away you won’t be tempted. Our top tip is to turn it off and be truly present for the few hours you get to spend with this person. Who knows, maybe you’re meeting the love of your life. Your Facebook can wait!

Don’t Ask About The Ex

If there’s a better way to take energy out of date than asking about the ex then we don’t know it. Avoid the topic like the plague and stick to fun, positive topics, there will be time to get into the deep stuff later on. Our tip, while you are shelving the ex conversation also put away politics and religion. Nothing good can come from it and worst-case scenario is you end up having a huge fight.

Don’t Share Too Much

She wants to get to know you but she doesn’t want to get to know about your bodily functions or awkward upbringing…at least right away. It’s important to be yourself but it’s important to know when not to share something on a date. Our top tip is if you’re unsure, save it for down the track. You want to get to know someone and she wants to get to know you but there’s a line you don’t want to cross too early.

When you’re nervous and unsure of what to say next or how the date is going, just remember she probably feels the exact same way. It’s normal to be nervous on a date but if you keep these few tips in mind of what not to do, you can go a long way to making it an overall success. Ready for more dates? Check out these websites.

We’ve all heard the clichés that a long distance relationship doesn’t work or it’s impossible to sustain a meaningful long distance relationship. In reality the experiences of many people have proved this is simply not the case, in fact it’s often the exact opposite. Many of the members have actually found dating long distance, particularly early on, has been a great advantage and has set them up to enjoy a truly meaningful, long-term relationship.

It’s A Great Test

What better way to know if your relationship is going to last than by putting it to the real test of long distance? Couples who make it through the challenges of being apart for extended periods, almost always come out the other end stronger for it and ironically, closer. Going long distance tests your determination, your loyalty and your commitment and it’s these attributes that are so important in a partner.

Sort Out Your Communication

If communicating is important in a regular relationship then it’s the absolute key to making a long distance relationship work out. It’s crucial that you set your expectations when it comes to communicating. Our tip is to lock in a regular time for chatting over the phone or on webcam and make it a fun, daily ritual. Interact with each other on social media, like her photos, tag her in funny memes and send her links to articles she might be interested in. Just because you are dating long distance doesn’t mean communication has to break down.

Make An Effort

Everyone likes to feel like their partner is making an effort and the same goes for long distance relationships. Arrange to have flowers delivered to her work, write her a letter and surprise her by sending it in the mail or make sure there’s a nice message for to wake up. You don’t have to move heaven and earth, but by putting in just a little bit of effort you can let her know you’re thinking about her.

There’s No Time For Games

There’s no doubt dating long distance is tough and it doesn’t need to be made any tougher by playing silly mind games. If you want to talk, reach out to her rather than always waiting for her to make the first move and if you miss her, let her know, your honesty will go a long way. Playing games might work in a traditional relationship but there’s no room for it with long distance dating. It can only lead to a lack of trust and doubts around the other person’s commitment.

You Need To Give Up Control

You can’t control everything when you’re dating long distance and you need to put your trust in the other person’s commitment and loyalty. It might be tough to begin with but once you give up control you will both feel a lot more relaxed about the relationship and start to enjoy the ride, rather than stressing about every issue that might come up.

Remember It’s not Forever

It’s important to know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. Having a goal to work towards it’s very important whether that’s a holiday that you get to share together or an end date in mind when you won’t have to be dating long distance anymore. It might be a few weeks, several months or even years but either way it’s important to know it won’t be like this forever.

As we’ve discussed in this blog, dating long distance is tough but it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship and it many cases it has actually made people closer. The trick is finding a method of managing the challenges that works for you. Whether that’s through rock-solid communication, a shared trust and loyalty for each other or a willingness to give up control and see what happens, dating long distance has the power to build long-lasting, strong relationships.

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Your profile is your greatest asset when it comes to the world of online dating. It’s your first impression, it’s showing off your personality, your interests and your assets and it’s attracting your potential matches. Often for those who feel online dating isn’t working for them it’s actually their profile that’s letting them down and not the platform itself. The good news is that by tweaking a few small sections of your profile you can go a long way to improving your overall online dating experience.

Put Thought Into Your Photos

Ever heard the saying, a photo tells a thousand words? We’re not sure about a thousand but there’s no doubt your photo is telling a lot about you when it comes to your dating profile. Essentially there are three key photo types you profile should include. There are: head shot, full body (clothes on!) and an action shot. The head shot is designed to show what you look like so smile, take off the sunglasses and hat. The full body and action shot is as much about looks as it is showing your lifestyle, what you’re interested in and that you have a life and friends outside of the platform.

Get Descriptive

After your photos, your description is arguably the next most influential element in your profile, so get creative! Describe yourself in a genuine but interesting way. You need to remember that users are more than likely browsing dozens of profiles. You want yours to stand out for all the right reasons while still remaining true and honest to yourself. A dating profile is supposed to be fun so keep it light-hearted, entertaining and interesting for the reader. It’s a great opportunity to show off your personality early on while you start to allude to what you’re looking for.

Be Clear About Your Wants

If you don’t know what you want how can you expect anyone else to know? Your profile gives you a golden opportunity to list exactly what you’re looking for. The trick is to be clear but not to come across as overly picky. If you say you want a certain type, with certain interests you are far more likely to attract what’s really important to you. Cast your net too wide and you might get more responses, but they will likely not be what you’re looking for in a long-term relationship.

Take a look at other profiles

Don’t be afraid to take some tips from those around you. What makes a profile stand out to you? If there’s something that you find you are constantly attracted to, consider whether it is something that could help improve your profile too. Chances are, if you’re attracted to it than so are other people. On top of taking tips and tricks from others, it’s always a good option to stop regularly and take stock of your own profile. Take the time to look at it objectively and consider if it’s needs updating.

Ask your friend for advice

Sometimes when it’s your profile it’s hard, or even impossible, to look at it objectively. Ask a friend for their honest advice and you never know the improvements they may pick up. A friend, particularly one of the opposite sex, might be able to highlight pieces of information that you have left out. A friend might point out important qualities that have been missed or even improvements to the overall way the profile has been written.

Your profile should be constantly evolving as your experience on the platform grows. Even as what you’re looking for changes. Just by taking a few of these simple tips and tricks you can give your profile it’s best chance to stand out for all the right reasons.