Sure it would be great for your love interest to look you straight in the eye and tell you exactly what she’s thinking all of the time but you’re dreaming if you think that’s actually going to happen. We’re willing to bet you don’t even do it either. When it comes to how to know she’s the one for you it’s always a combination of things said and things not said like body language and subtle signals.
In this blog we take a look at the top 7 ways to know if she really is the one for you.
1. You Have Things In Common
It’s no secret having things in common is important for a long-term relationship but it’s also crucial when you are connecting in the early stages. Do you like the same types of food, music or movies. Sure, these things aren’t deal breakers later on as you get to know each other but at the beginning these are things you connect and bond over. If you like animals and have pets, share that with her. If you are passionate about sport, let her know. Maybe you are a dedicated family-orientated man or career driven. All these things are important to share to understand if you have these initial things in common.
2. You Share The Same Goals & Desires
Do you both want kids? Are you both looking to settle down? Do you see the same things in your future? All these types of goals and desires are important when it comes to choosing the right person. The beauty of a dating site is these important desires are very easy to assess with an extensive public profile. Of course the ability to chat live with your match makes it easy to get a better understanding of what they’re looking for.
3. You Have A Physical Attraction
A physical attraction is not the be all and end all but it is a hugely important factor when it comes to choosing ‘the one’, at least initially. Our tip here is to not let it rule who you do and don’t connect with. Sure, you want to be attracted to them but don’t be to set on one type of hair colour, one eye colour etc. Remember attraction works both ways and a deep connection will go beyond simple materialistic features.
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4. You Can Talk For Hours
One of the advantages of online dating is the ability to really get to know someone in a safe, reliable, secure setting. This is a great way to determine if someone is right for you and if you find the time slips away and your conversations go well into the night it’s a great sign you two are connecting. Don’t be afraid to have a deep conversation about family, the future or their goals but you also don’t want to rush in with the hard-hitting questions too early on. Play the balancing act between fun and interesting conversation and deep and meaningful connection.
5. She’s Open And Honest (and you are with her)
Honesty is the backbone of both traditional and online relationships and if you feel she’s being dishonest or is hiding something, more often than not she is. Finding the right woman takes honesty from both parties and we always suggest being honest with your match (always in a safe way of course). Too often online relationships break down because one party was putting up a façade that didn’t represent who they really were and it was only a matter of time before they were exposed. Be honest and if she can’t handle that then she’s not the right person for you anyway.
6. She Talks About Meeting In Person
For couples who have not yet met in person, this can be a very big step. Sure it may not be the right time yet or even logistically possible but at least talking about the desire to meet and connect in person is a good sign that you may have found a long-term connection. Of course we always want you to be safe with meeting any one in person for the first time but having the desire to take the relationship to the next level shows that you really are growing as a couple.
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7. You Can’t Stop Thinking About Her
Can’t get through the workday without thinking of your match? Find yourself drifting off, daydreaming about her? If she’s all you can think about and you find yourself always looking forward to chatting again then you can be rest assured you’re on the right track. This is not unique to online dating but it’s a great sign you may have found someone you really connect with.
Our best bet, beyond all else, is to go with your gut feeling. If it feels right then pursue it and see what happens, if something feels off then chances are it is. Take a look at some great dating sites here.